No married couple is immune to divorce, which can occur either early in marriage or after 20 years of family life. Academic psychologist and lecturer at RANEPA, Irina Molvinskaya, explained that one of the most common causes of relationship problems is everyday difficulties.
“Typically, these include life circumstances that prevent partners from feeling comfortable in the relationship. In such cases, loving partners turn into mere cohabitants and lose their warm connection with each other,” Molvinskaya told “Gazeta.Ru.”
Another reason for separation is the lack of communication in the couple. Even after 20 years, people may still fail to communicate effectively and express their grievances to each other. Such conversations often escalate into conflicts, with neither partner willing to listen to the other. Couples must be able to discuss and work through the issues between them. The willingness to engage in open dialogue determines whether a family can overcome crises, which all families experience.
Infidelity, according to the psychologist, ranks third among the causes of divorce. She described such situations as extremes, after which it is rarely possible to restore the family. However, the root problem still lies in everyday issues and the lack of dialogue between spouses. Infidelity is a consequence, not the primary cause, the specialist explains.
Molvinskaya emphasized that any marriage can be saved, even if both partners believe the situation is hopeless. There are no simple secrets to maintaining family happiness. Spouses need to be prepared to analyze situations and seek solutions together.
For instance, she advised that a woman first define the role she plays in the relationship.
“For example, many mistakenly overuse the roles of mother or daughter in a relationship and push away a partner who is seeking a muse, partner, and friend,” the psychologist explains.
Partners should be friends, lovers, and inspirers for each other. To combine all these roles, it is necessary to blend care, passion, and support. The key to strong and comfortable relationships is the ability to create a space where each spouse feels cozy and safe, concluded the specialist.
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